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Written by Mumtaj Khan
Dec 09, 2025

Parents HARSH TRUTHS in Treating Their Kids in India

Indian moms and dads care a lot about their kids, yet this caring often brings tough limits, high hopes, or heavy feelings. A lot of young people hear more about duties instead of dreams. While the heart behind it is kindness, reality shows some rough sides in how adults raise children there.

Knowing this stuff helps moms, dads, and kids form solid bonds through mutual regard, talking openly - also offering real emotional backup.

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1. Love Comes With Conditions

Parents tell kids “We love you,” yet that affection might depend on behavior. When children obey, score high grades, pick approved jobs, or behave a certain way, they sense approval. Otherwise, acceptance fades. Slowly, little ones link achievement with being loved - mistakes bring shame instead.

2. Comparison Is Normal

Most moms and dads in India believe pitting their kid against others pushes them forward. Yet, this habit often leads to self-doubt, envy, pressure, or fear inside. Each youngster is unique - still, side-by-side judging wipes out what makes them stand apart.

3. Career Is Chosen by Parents

Many moms and dads pick their kid’s path - like engineering or becoming a doctor, landing a govt role, business studies, stuff like that. They figure it’s secure, sure… yet overlook what the kid truly loves, what sparks them, what they imagine doing. While aiming for stability, they sideline joy, originality, even ambition.

4. Kids Don’t Get a Voice

In lots of homes, adults speak while kids stay quiet. Feelings, thoughts, or wants don't get shared by younger ones. When they try, grown-ups often call it rude behavior. That gap builds space between people rather than closeness.

5. Success Is Defined Only by Marks

Marks rule your life - get them, get respect, plus a shot at freedom. Yet grades don’t show how smart you really are. One kid might crush it in painting, another nails soccer or chats their way into any deal. Talent spreads wide: rhythm, hustle, teamwork, making things look easy.

6. Mental Health Is Ignored

If a kid mentions stress, worry, or sadness, lots of moms and dads reply:

“Nothing is wrong,”

“Focus on studies,”

“You are weak.”

Mental health often gets misunderstood. Issues get labeled as bad attitudes instead of real emotional pain.

7. Society Controls Decisions

Indian moms and dads worry what neighbors think - so decisions often hinge on gossip or rumors floating around town

Log kya kahenge?”

Folks like buddies, family, or folks next door often care way less about what makes a kid happy. Instead, their expectations steer big choices - what job to pick, how to dress, who to marry, even daily habits.

8. Sacrifice Is Expected

Kids often give up their hopes because of duties to relatives, a partner, or brothers and sisters - yet even though duty matters, trading it for joy can bring sorrow down the road.

9. Emotional Blackmail Is Used as Love

Statements like:

“We did everything for you,”

“We sacrificed our life,”

“Don’t break our heart”

push kids into thinking they’re bad for chasing what they want. That won’t build closeness - just worry.

Conclusion

The real deal? Indian moms and dads care deep down - yet that caring often turns into strict rules, high demands, or guilt trips. Most want good things for their kids - but life's different now. Young ones require advice, not stress. They crave help, not side-by-side judgments with cousins or neighbors. Grown-ups must listen to what a kid truly wants, instead of pushing old hopes they never got.

The days ahead can improve if moms and dads start really hearing their kids - also letting them make picks without judgment. When grown-ups stop pushing their views, youngsters feel valued while sharing thoughts they actually mean.

Love shouldn't depend on anything.

Winning isn't something the world gets to decide for you.

Each kid should get liberty, honesty, also joy.

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